Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Last night, over the last bottle of champagne, Teri and I finally had some time to the two of us to just talk. We talked about our favorite parts and the amazing joys, but we also shared our disappointments and what we thought would go differently or what we forgot. There was gushing, of course, but for two pragmatic and practically-minded women, we couldn't help but make some room for the other too.
As "newlyweds," we do not feel any more committed to each other than we did before. What does feel different is that our commitment is legitimized in a deeper way for our family, friends, and the community we care so much about. The entire process has given us the opportunity to get to know each other even more--strengths, weaknesses, idiosyncrasies; it has allowed us some time to fully embrace our different families, meet each others' friends, and accept the unchangeable. We have had to talk about and work through some pretty bumpy stuff in a fairly public way. We jumped into a journey that has been personal, emotional, political, spiritual, and practical and invited the world in to participate in that journey with us.
I know this woman pretty darn well after three years, but there is plenty more to come. One of my favorite parts of our vows was when we promised to trust in the other's abiding love. Partnered with our vow to strive to not take each other for granted, we've committed to companionship and love; we've committed to each other, to our kids, to our families and to our friends--those we already know and those who have yet to find their way into our lives.