Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Married Life...Three Months Later
We have made some additions to our lives--both in actual people (or person) and in activities. We throw a "Wednesday night Drop-In" or drop-in as it has been shortened to for all our kids, family, etc. who want to stop in for a big, hot meal and some conversation. It is low-key in every sense but the food--which tends to be PLENTY to feed our young adults, their starving friends, and whomever...the living room is overflowing, the candy bowl gets emptied and there are plenty of dishes for the two of us to do after the house clears out. It gives us the chance, however, to keep in touch with all their lives and to connect and grow together as the expanding family we are. We are so grateful for those who are close and feel the pang of missing those who are so far away.
We have also turned over what was our spare bedroom to a previously-homeless teenager--a young gal who got kicked out of her already rocky home world when she came out as queer. She's working to finish high school and deal with the crappy realities that have been her life so far. When the opportunity presented itself, Teri and I just knew it was an of course moment for us. After all, this is the sort of family we are. It just isn't enough to say that we have certain values or to state our beliefs from some obnoxious soapbox, it matters more that we actually live them. So, we're getting back into the swing of gallons of milk and empty orange juice pitchers in the fridge--teenage moodiness and energy with a queer twist. I cannot help but exclaim: how lucky are we?! The universe just keeps offering up amazing adventures. Besides, how could we not adore this complicated creature? She is incredibly good for the likes of us.
We have decided that we just need to say "Yes" to things--at a time when the whole world seems to be shuddering and contracting with fear and insecurities, there are so many ways that we can all just roll up our sleeves and jump in--whether by holding a protest sign, or taking food to the homeless, or serving on a task force, board, or volunteer project. Chances are, however little one thinks they have, they have enough to share--whether it is time, food, money, a ride, or an offer of help. Stick up for someone who needs an ally, a friend, a mom--it is amazing what can be done with bacon, pie and compassion...