Sunday, February 20, 2011
The thing is, mainstream media still portrays “brides” as pristine young representatives of the upper-middle class. Where are the tattoos and piercings?! (Teri has a sassy little nose piercing too.) The assumption, of course, is that only dreadlocked earth muffins and battered old rock-and-rollers have body art, but what about us ordinary gals who have accumulated some pretty amazing and beautiful pieces over the courses of our lives?
I discovered accidentally that a few places actually sell make-up kits to help cover tattoos for weddings and special events. Seriously? No thank you. First of all, I got my first tattoo on my 30th birthday and it represents so much to me: my growing awareness of myself, finally growing up and stepping into my own life, a new beginning. Like many people who love tattoos, they are woven into my life's journey. I have one that I share with my friend, Wendy; I have one that reminds me of my first heterosexual marriage; the one in the photo I had done on Valentine's Day of 2010 and the juicy, plump heart-shaped ladybug represents abundant and playful love to me. In fact, I just may get one more PRIOR to the wedding to commemorate what is a magnificent and major progression in my life.
Teri loves her tattoos too and we found out as we were getting to know each other that we share a favorite local tattoo artist: two of my pieces and several of hers have been done by the brilliant Katherine at Tattoos by Design here in Eugene. When I do go in for my Wedding tattoo, it will be to Katherine to see what she can work up (I have recommended her to countless people--most recently to a coworker who is quite happy with his first tattoo at the age of...over 50.) I know, of course, that every tattoo-lover has a favorite artist, style, etc. which, of course, is part of the fun of the addiction.
As Teri reminded me when we were talking about the inevitable tattoo baring, she is marrying me and all of me--not some idealized, media-inspired version of who I ought to be. And our wedding day is about celebrating who we are and who we are evolving into (both before we met and now, together)--so bring on the tattoos and all the other unique and individual realities that make up who we are--we are ready for the world to know...